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To understand self-esteem we need to break it down into two words. Esteem is to value someone or something, to think them or it important.
And 'self' means: well, yourself! So when you put the two words together to make the term self-esteem, it's easy to see what self-esteem is. It's how much you value yourself and how important you think you are.

Self-esteem is not owning a fantastic house or amazing car, though awsome to have they are material things external to our 'self'. Good self-esteem is an internal positive sense of self which enables you to hold your head high and feel proud of who you are, your abilities and accomplishments. It gives you the courage to try new challenges and the power to believe in yourself. It allows you to respect yourself, even when you make mistakes. And when you respect yourself, others will generally respect you too.
Having good self-esteem enables you to make good choices about your mind, body and life. If you think you are important, you'll be less likely to follow the crowd if you don't agree with what they are doing, or become a 'people pleaser' at a cost to your-self. If you have good self-esteem, you are perfectly capable of making your own decisions based on your gut instinct and the situation.